Getting your partner on board with having a Doula
Do you want a doula but your husband or partner has some hesitations? Let's address two common reservations and how you can get your partner on board.
1. "It's so expensive!"
Yes, hiring a doula is an investment, but it's one of the best investments you can make for your birth experience. A doula helps you prepare for labor, teaches exercises to get your body ready, and discusses your birth plan. They're on call weeks before your due date and provide continuous support during labor, helping both you and your partner.
Studies show that having a doula can decrease dissatisfaction with the birth experience by 31%. The cost is more about valuing the support and expertise a doula provides. Many doulas offer a sliding scale structure, discounts or payment plans, so don't hesitate to ask!
2. "What does a doula do? Can't I be your support person?"
Your partner might worry about being replaced, but a doula is an addition to your team, not a replacement. They offer guidance on how your partner can support you and act as an extra set of hands and a cheerleader during labor.
Evidence shows that having a doula can:
- Decrease the risk of Cesarean by 25%
- Increase the likelihood of spontaneous vaginal birth by 8%
- Decrease the use of pain medications by 10%
- Shorten labor by 41 minutes on average
- Reduce the baby's risk of a low five-minute Apgar score by 38%
Talking Points for Your Partner
1. "Labor can be long and exhausting. It would be great to have someone there so you can take breaks without leaving me alone."
2. "The statistics for having a doula are impressive. A healthy mom and baby are priceless."
3. "I know you support me, but having someone to talk to about my fears and questions anytime would be comforting."
4. "I want a natural birth but need help understanding what to expect. A doula can teach us what a normal labor looks like and how to prepare."
5. "Even if I get an epidural, having a doula can help keep labor progressing smoothly."
6. "I’d like someone knowledgeable to review our birth options and preferences with us. Can we hire a doula to help with this?"
Involving Your Partner
Bring your partner to doula interviews to find the best fit for both of you. A strong support team increases your chances of a positive birth experience.
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